I, Mr. Selfish, take you to be my lawfully wedded wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward; in good times and bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.
What price will you pay to have a man utter these words to you? Are you comfortable knowing that his selfishness is what you’re committing to for the rest of your life?
There are so many women who marry Mr. Selfish just for the ring and a ceremony, not realizing he’s no good to you if everything he things about is himself. Yes, you’ll be Mrs. Selfish but what you paid to own that title is nothing in comparison. Why are we so hung up on titles, but not willing to handle the numerous responsibilities they bring?
You want to know what the crazy part of all of this is? You didn’t just become Mrs. Selfish and you didn’t necessarily need a man to make you Mrs. Selfish. You see, all along you’ve been selfish to YOU; not accounting for your own self-worth, but simply putting it to the side all in an effort to be with ‘him,’ drive the latest model car, wear the trendsetting shoes, or carry the dopest bag. Ladies when will you stop marrying selfish? It’s time out for going into relationships without the slightest clue of your expectations, let alone his, and being in one just to say you’re in one. Gone are the days that a woman’s mentality can afford to reflect one of what’s in it for me. No, I don’t strictly speak in a superficial way that it’s all about a man and woman relationship. What about your relationship with God, your family, your peers, and your relationship with your passion. You’ve got to know that you are no good to ‘him’ if you can’t be good to yourself. Whatever your ‘man’ is in your life that you desire to marry just to say you have it, let it go and know that you should aspire to rise above mediocrity and selfishness. Don’t you think of yourself as a fine wine just aging with time? Who wants to continue to sit on a shelf and have no value?
We do not get anywhere by being selfish in our relationships, our gifts and talents, or our time and finances. In order to be your best self, you should look in the mirror and say am I Mrs. Selfish or am I Mrs. Giver. Who would you rather marry?
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